Allergy to commitment: we do it… and we see
Friends with benefits, one night stands, adventures, spring rolls or summer loves...
If labeling your relationships causes you hives, nausea, blurred vision, difficulty breathing, and chest pains...
We have another tag... for you: what if you are allergic to commitment?
This week we take advantage of the fact that Singles' Day is celebrated or to give you the diagnosis to the bottom; ITV to your heart. The psychotechnician to see if your thing is to be called “my baby”, “my love” or “my cotufito”… or to be happy from night to night via DM with: “ontas? I'll send you an Uber.”
Ready?
The diagnosis: what is the fear of commitment about?
The fear of commitment is (surprise, surprise) the fear of everything that love implies = the butterflies in the stomach of Disney movies, taking the “next step” in a relationship or simply to connect emotionally with another person (because this also happens with colleagues and family, not just as a couple).
Now, the disclaimer is coming…
Although there is nothing more democratic and natural than fear...
The bad thing is when that allergy to love, in all its forms, transforms into a phobia that ends up touching the bone in self-love... and that of course destroys more relationships than Temptation Island.
Symptoms: x-ray of someone allergic to commitment
Just as social relationships are more fluid and diverse every day, it is OBVIOUS that not all people afraid of commitment are cut from the same cloth.
But if we had to list the most common characteristics, it would look something like this:
- Future plans? We'll see…
- Level 'L' in conflict management.
- They live on a daily emotional roller coaster.
- About making decisions... he doesn't know, he doesn't answer, NEXT.
- They are #FuckingScared of losing their freedom and independence.
- Tendency to jealousy and control due to fear of abandonment.
- They work hard to manage and express their emotions.
- Your most faithful companion in all your relationships: insecurity.
- Conspiracy theories: they think that there is always something that is going to go wrong.
- It's not love... what you feel is an obsession with the courtship and fooling around phase: forever hooked on the pre-twerking.
The causes: why are we reluctant to commit?
By evolution, statistics and biology
It is inevitable that there are more and more singles in the world. We don't say it , people who understand say it. Little word.
Trying to run away from this is like trying to run away from pollen in the spring.
For traditions that smell like mothballs.
Fidelity as the culmination of commitment? Monogamy as the only way to form lasting relationships? Marriage for life as if it were the real “who could”?
We deserve to turn the page on those ideas that are more trendy than gotelé.
For a catalog of fears that not even Netflix has on Halloween.
Miedo a perder nuestra libertad, a perder oportunidades de futuro, a perderte “el amor de tu vida”. Miedo a revivir experiencias pasadas y dolorosas. Miedo a que las cosas no salgan como esperabas. Miedo a la intimidad con alguien y mostrarte vulnerable…
In summary? Fear of leaving behind all the fears that do not fit on this list.
Because the matches are no longer what they were.
Although flirting apps can be the way to look for love or to find your trusted tinderfuck ... The polar cold of black backgrounds, the photos of a headless body or the "if I have screwed you I don't remember" don't tell you remove anyone.
What have we all caught thanks to Tinder? Yes. That from time to time we miss a supermatch at suspicious hours of the night? Could be. Is finding love on an app stressful? You should know...
Dr. Siwon's recipe for reconciling yourself with commitment
Obligations, agreements, demands... Don't you like the definition of commitment that you have been told to date? Well, change to one that matches you.
At the end of that comes the commitment, right? To build something with someone honestly, but always on your own terms: expectations, complicity, intimacy (💦), mutual respect, that you understand each other...
So…
● If you like the idea of getting to know people in depth, even if your Tinder is more like the deep web...
● If you #PutoFlipa are single and enjoying life in #AllTheSingleLadies mode...
● If you are more into making a spoon than making random skewers...
Antihistamine and lots of water.
Have a good time in the process and twerk as much as you can (and want), maybe yours with commitment started as a forbidden love... and ends as a love for all of life.
PD:And as Rupaul says: if you can't give self-love to yourself, how are you going to love the rest of the group?
Well, maybe it wasn't like that, but the idea is the same:
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We do cool right,
Siwon
